Let’s be real—marriage isn’t always smooth sailing. Some days, it’s full of love and laughter; other days, it feels like you and your spouse are speaking two completely different languages. That’s where empathy steps in. Empathy isn’t just about “feeling bad” for your spouse when they’re having a rough day—it’s about truly seeing, hearing, and understanding them, even when you don’t agree.
Empathy = Love in Action
Think about it—when your spouse is stressed, frustrated, or feeling unseen, do you react or do you respond? Reacting sounds like: “Here we go again,” or “That’s not what I meant, so why are you upset?” But responding with empathy sounds like: “I see this is really bothering you—help me understand why.”
👉🏾 One simple shift in how you listen can change the entire tone of a conversation.
This month, we’re diving into love languages and communication, and guess what? Empathy is at the root of both. If you don’t take the time to understand how your spouse receives love, you could be missing the mark completely—thinking you're showing love, but they don’t feel it.
Bridging the Gap: Speak Their Language with Empathy
💡 Words of Affirmation? Empathy sounds like: “I know you need to hear that I appreciate you—I see you working hard, and I love you for it.”
💡 Acts of Service? Empathy looks like: Taking one thing off their plate, without them asking, because you know they’re overwhelmed.
💡 Quality Time? Empathy means: Being fully present, putting the phone down, and giving them your undivided attention.
💡 Physical Touch? Empathy shows up in: A reassuring hug, holding hands, or just sitting close—especially on tough days.
💡 Gifts? Empathy isn’t about the price—it’s about thoughtfulness behind the gesture. A handwritten note, their favorite snack, or something that says, “I thought about you today.”
The TLC Challenge: Pause & Feel First
Before you respond to your spouse this week, pause and ask yourself:
💭 How are they feeling right now?
💭 What’s really underneath what they’re saying?
💭 How can I respond in a way that makes them feel loved, not just heard?
Empathy is the secret ingredient to lasting connection. It’s what turns everyday conversations into deep, meaningful moments. So, let’s make this month not just about love, but about understanding the love our spouse needs.
💬 Drop a comment: What’s one way you can show more empathy in your marriage this week? Let’s talk!
Coach TaShon
Your Marriage Communication Coach
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